Everyone comes into life with a purpose. You are part
of the universal creative energy. You didn't come here to prove your worth
or to find a problem and fix it. You came to express your talents and abilities,
to realize your dreams. You are a unique expression of the universal life
force that has crystallized into your physical form to reflect your spirit's
journey. No one else ever has or will affect the world as you do. With
every act, word or thought, you are adding to All-That-Is. The circumstances
of your life are signs as to what your purpose is.
matter what comes, trust that what you go through will enlighten you. Don't
be discouraged. Change doesn't happen overnight. It comes little by little,
more and more, deepening your ability to love, create, and make a difference
personally and in society. The most important thing is a dedication to
trying something new and learning from your experience.
a dysfunctional family doesn't necessarily mean getting along better with
your relatives. You make peace with the past by treating difficult situations,
thoughts, emotions and people as opportunities to unravel the knots in
your heart and mind that keep you stuck. You create a new future by drawing
on your innate wisdom to help you let go of dysfunctional patterns and
find the faith in yourself that will support you in building a life you
love. When you do your best, you tap into a power that's been within you
all along, in even the most difficult circumstances, even when you weren't
aware of it.
how do you go about doing this? Here are ten ways to spark change in your
life and relationships:
1. SET A NEW
new course is first an internal one, which paves the way for the external
changes. What happens in your life is largely up to you. If you're not
satisfied with your life as it is, start by imagining how it can get better.
Make it a priority to figure out how to create what you want. Do what uplifts
you. Let yourself feel excited about your possibilities. Take time every
day to think about how you'd like your life to be. What you dedicate yourself
to, you can create.
2. TRUST YOUR
Opening to inner wisdom
for that still small voice inside. Within you is a guidance system that
communicates through your ideas and emotions. Give yourself the benefit
of the doubt. Have good intentions. Rely on your own sense of what's right.
Stand your ground. Believe in yourself in the face of criticism. Integrity
is doing what you think is best in each moment.
3. LOOK FOR A
Improving your attitude
How things appear is affected by how you look at them. Search for the positive.
Negative interpretations dull your energy and ability to cope. Spirit underlies
everything, regardless of whether you interpret something as good or bad.
You already have inside you the resources for building a good life. You
just have to learn how to use them.
4. TAKE A STEP
Getting a bigger picture
Be on the lookout for destructive habitual patterns. Noticing is the first
step to breaking them. Don't fight them, just observe your thoughts and
feelings. The deeper you can go, the more you unravel the stuck places
in your heart and mind. Bring spirit into the process by inviting metaphysical
help in any form that works for you. Be influenced by others' opinions
only if they inspire you. You don't have to convince anyone of your right
to have your life as you want it.
5. WATCH WHAT
Tell the truth. Say good things. Be aware of your effect on others. Make
things right. Know when to shut up or decline to answer. Don't interrupt.
Choose your battles. Allow different points of view. Watch what you listen
to. Don't brag, one-up, pretend you're something you're not, or congratulate
yourself too much. Don't think of yourself as better than most. Don't give
advice unless you're asked. Don't gossip. Don't assume you're being understood--
check it out.
6. DON'T KEEP
Setting your own standards
isn't about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, fulfilling
your potential is the essential goal. Adversity can build strength. If
a dream sours, let it go without judgment or remorse. Assume it's no longer
relevant, and look for new options. Accepting change brings peace of mind.
Even a losing battle can be a stepping-stone to a better situation.
7. NO VICTIMS,
Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create
the whole. You are not responsible for anyone else, nor are they for you.
You're not required to betray yourself for anyone else's sake, so there's
no guilt, no blame, no shame. Holding a grudge drains your energy. If someone
hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. You may never forget, but
letting go of resentment is healing. This goes double for forgiving yourself.
8. MEDITATE AND
TREAT YOURSELF WELL
time to have fun and enjoy life. Laugh. Believe in your dreams. Celebrate
your successes, big and small. Take walks in nature. Spend time alone.
Exercise, rest and eat when you need to, and drink lots of water. Meditation
calms your conscious thinking mind so you can get in touch with your inner
wisdom. Count your breaths, or silently repeat a soothing word or phrase
like "peace" or "well-being." Imagine a light shining through you, easing
your emotional and physical pain. Even ten minutes a day can make a difference.
9. GET OUTSIDE
Seeing beyond your blind spots
helps to talk about your feelings, no matter how embarrassing, strange
or awful they seem to you. An objective outsider can help you clear up
confusion and set your creative energy free. Get counseling, either by
yourself or with family members. Don't expect The Answer, but serve yourself
a smorgasbord of possibilities to take or leave as you like. Explore
what makes sense to you. Don't follow advice blindly. Examine both sides
of any issue.
10. MOVE ON
your own boundaries. Your first commitment should be to yourself. If you're
not there for yourself, you can't be there for anyone else. Do what you
can, and do your best, but not at your own expense. Live your own truth,
and be honorable. Intend the best for everyone, especially yourself. You
have no control over what anyone else feels or thinks, no matter how much
you care, or how badly you think they need it. When conflict arises, try
to work things through, but if you feel hopeless, scapegoated, threatened
or frantic, retreat may be the only appropriate choice, at least for the
moment. It's perfectly all right to let relationships fade if they don't
suit you any more. To leave your mark on future generations, pass along
what you learn.
I wish you healing,
faith and the courage to make your dreams come true.